Effective and open communication is essential in fostering a good nanny-parent relationship. It is important to establish good communication from the beginning of employment. It can be helpful to create a plan about how you will communicate regularly about the children and any work-related issues that may arise. First and foremost, remember to treat each other with respect. Ultimately you have the same goal in mind. You both want to best support the child(ren).

Communication Tips

  • Create a contract that outlines expectations, job responsibilities, salary, and benefits.
  • Decide on the best day-to-day communication strategy. Will you text your employer updates throughout the day, do a quick check-in at the end of the day, or something else? Make sure both parties feel comfortable with the agreed upon plan.
  • Schedule regular check-ins and reviews so you can touch base about the working relationship and the children.
  • Ask questions if something is unclear or if you need more information.
  • Active listening is an essential component of communication so it is important to listen to your employer. Be careful not to interrupt or talk over him/her and instead focus on listening. Once they are finished speaking then it’s your turn to talk.
  • Be honest and voice your opinions and discuss any concerns in a professional way.
  • If you say you will do something, follow through with action. Be sure to keep your word and if something comes up so you cannot, communicate that to them.
  • Always begin with positive comments before addressing negatives. This keeps the conversation going in a positive direction.
  • Pay attention to your tone. Tone can often send a stronger message than the words themselves. Think about what you are going to say before you start talking. This can be especially important if you are addressing something you are concerned about or is bothering you.
  • Face to face communication is usually best so the other person can read your non-verbal cues while you are speaking. However, some people communicate better in writing so that can work too.
  • Although it can be challenging at times, try to be receptive of constructive feedback and try not to take it personally. Keep an open mind and ask questions if you are unclear about any changes they want you to make.

Good communication is important in every relationship and the nanny-parent relationship is no exception. There is much to communicate in regards to the children, responsibilities, schedules, and so much more. It is helpful to set up a system from the beginning that works well for everyone. Be sure to ask questions, stay positive, and address concerns as they arise.